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Tom Peters I'm furious with Richard Farson and Ralph
Keyes! They've written the book I always wanted to write.
This is the best management book I've read since Farson's last
one, and doubtless the best I'll read until his next one. He is
the master. Move over Drucker.
Richard Pollak The Nation A welcome antidote to the numbing
conventional wisdom about what constitutes corporate success and
failure. It shows how to make the business environment both vital
and humane.
Michael Murphy Author of Golf in the Kingdom Promises to become a
classic in the genre of modern wisdom literature.
Jane Alexander Actress, author, and former Chairman, National
Endowment for the Arts The authors make a clear case for
understanding that failing precedes almost all great wins in our
society....A valuable book for just about anyone in our
competitive world.
Harlan Cleveland President Emeritus, World Academy of Art and
Science Truth always seems to come in small paradoxical packages.
This [one]...reveals the fusion of sites as the essence of
truth.
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Chapter 1: The Success-Failure Fallacy
One must be God to be able to distinguish successes from failures
and not make mistakes.
-- Anton Chekov
A management consultant wrote a brief bio for his thirtieth
college reunion. In it, he included the usual information: work,
family, achievements. By most measures, this man was unusually
successful. He was the her of thriving children, head of a
respected think tank, and author of a best-selling book. After
reviewing his paragraph, however, the consultant realized that it
read more like a resumé than an honest report to his classmates.
"Why would I write such a stilted, half-true account of my life
for friends who knew me when?" he asked himself.
As a lark, the consultant decided to write a longer, more candid
report about what his life had actually been like. It began:
Because I didn't receive a single "A" in college, I couldn't get
into medical school. Instead, I worked as a lifeguard, but got
fired at the end of the summer. My next job, selling advertising
in the Yellow Pages, was interrupted by breaking my leg badly
while skiing. This gave me three months to think about what to do
with my life. Since I'd enjoyed my psychology courses in college,
I thought I might try to become a school psychologist. So, I
enrolled at UCLA to pick up psychology and education courses, but
got kicked out of student teaching because I couldn't get along
with my supervisor. Back to lifeguarding. Then I noticed that a
prominent psychologist was giving a summer seminar at my alma
mater, so I quit my job and enrolled. This experience was
electrifying. The psychologist invited me to study with him at
the University of Chicago. I was so intimidated by that most
serious academic institution, however, that I put off going there
for a year. Just before receiving my Ph.D. from Chicago, I was
given a one-year fellowship on the Harvard Business School
faculty. I left there at the end of the year with almost everyone
mad at me.
The report went on like this for several paragraphs. Far from
being a description of a smooth, upward trajectory, it portrayed
a jagged course of life events. Failures mingled with successes,
triumphs with setbacks. The consultant's full bio was a litany of
rtunities seized, others blown, jobs taken, jobs lost,
personal rebuffs, standing ovations, love affairs, marriage,
divorce, remarriage, making Who's Who, getting fired, starting a
think tank, making money, going broke, having a heart attack,
learning piano, publishing books...and on and on. His failures
led to successes and successes to failures. The two were so
interdependent that it wasn't always clear which was which. So it
is in most lives.
Tangled Line
Whose life can be located precisely on the of success and
failure? Sometimes, what seems to be a success at one point
proves to be a failure at another. Premature promotions set one
person up for a fall. Getting fired forces someone else to start
a profitable business. A marriage made in heaven can't survive
hellish periods. A rotten first marriage propels both partners
into terrific second ones. Life-threatening illnesses can jolt
survivors into living more fully. ("Best thing that ever happened
to me!")
We like to think you either succeed or fail. Most situations are
more ambiguous, however. So are most people. He's a success, we
say. She's a failure. On whose terms? At what stage of life? How
can we be so sure? Winston Churchill, after all, was considered
by many to be a pompous failure until he became prime minister of
Great Britain during World War II.
We're too quick to call someone or something a "success" or a
"failure" when the jury is still out (which is true in most
cases). These two are simply not that easy to sort out, untangle,
tell apart. All they are is labels we hang on complex events
trying to simplify them. What we usually end up doing is
oversimplifying them. When we win and when we lose can be utterly
dependent on circumstances, timing, the economy, even shifts in
the public mood.
Remember Edmund Muskie? When he ran for vice president in 1968,
Maine's Lincolnesque senator was considered the most impressive
member of either ticket. Four years later, he was the leading
candidate in the Democratic presidential primaries. Then, on a
snowy day in New Hampshire, Muskie choked up while protesting
press attacks on his wife. Televised images of the senator from
Maine tearfully addressing a rally with snowflakes clinging to
his eyebrows horrified American viewers. We didn't want a crybaby
in the White House! That single incident scuttled Muskie's
political career. He had "failed."
Fast forward twenty-eight years. Al Gore's campaign for president
was floundering. The knock on him: He was too stiff, too wooden.
Gore's feelings were stored in a lockbox. He never got
misty-eyed, like -- well -- like Ed Muskie!
In a different time and place, Muskie's catastrophic failure
might have been considered a roaring success. If Maine's senator
had been campaigning in the age of Oprah, his tearful outburst
might have won him plaudits. Muskie would then have been viewed
as a devoted husband and passionate candidate who could
communicate soulfully with the American public.
Failure and success can be utterly dependent on such intangibles.
Luck happens: good and bad. The fabulously wealthy J. Paul Getty
said his success formula was "Rise early, work late, strike oil."
As Getty realized, success or failure in business can have little
to do with anything done by design. On a given new project
everything might seem to be in place, ducks all lined up, every
detail checked out. Then, some unexpected meteor lands on that
project. A well-designed SUV might be launched just as soaring
prices revive demand for more fuel-efficient vehicles. A
surefire best-seller gets published right after New York Times
reporters go on strike, taking its best-seller list with them. Or
things might break the other way. A chance encounter at a class
reunion leads to a big contract. The unexpected failure of a
competitor opens new markets for your product. If the inventor of
a computer operating system called CP/M had accepted IBM's
invitation to pitch his product rather than go on vacation, Bill
Gates might be a small-time Seattle software merchant rather than
the developer of MS-DOS (which IBM bought instead) and one of the
world's richest men.
Now we all can agree that Gates did succeed, big time -- right?
Well, not everyone. It took Mary Gates years to reach that
conclusion. Long after Microsoft was flourishing, Mrs. Gates
considered her son Bill a failure because he had dropped out of
Harvard. Traditionally, that's what dropouts have been
considered: failures. In the midst of an economic revolution led
by college dropouts such as Bill Gates and Steve Jobs, however,
this attitude is changing. As Mary Gates eventually conceded,
leaving college -- even Harvard -- may simply reflect a shift in
priorities.
Says Who?
Success, failure: Who's to say? These are much more ambiguous
concepts than is suggested by success seminars, management texts,
or performance reviews. The terms defy definition. Each one of us
has a concept of success as unique as our fingerprints.
Appearances aside, it's rare for anyone to achieve every measure
of success as he or she may define that word. Despite what is
written in annual reports and Christmas newsletters, unqualified
success and clear-cut victories are rare. Most lives include few
pure successes -- or failures. Most must be qualified one way or
another. That's why people who appear successful seldom feel
successful. They know that what others perceive as their success
is more of a mixed bag and, to some extent, undeserved.
Take Maria Shriver. If ever a woman would seem to have it all,
it's Shriver. She's wealthy, attractive, has a movie-star husband
(Arnold Schwarzenegger), four y children, a thriving TV
career, and best-selling books on her resumé. Yet Shriver
continually uses the word failure when discussing herself. What
stands out in her mind is a single setback: when the version of
CBS Morning News she hosted was canceled. And her many successes?
Shriver brushes them off as a result of having big hair,
impressive teeth, and, especially, being John F. Kennedy's niece.
In most lives, successes and failures are as tangled as fishing
line after a bad cast. Failure begets success followed by failure
and success once again. When we look back on our lives, the parts
that once seemed triumphant can pale in significance, while
episodes that appeared trivial at the time now look crucial.
Successes, we see in hind, made us complacent, while our
setbacks pushed us.
Country singer Joe Diffie said that the best year of his life was
the one in which he lost his job at a foundry, got divorced,
totaled his pickup, and was audited by the IRS. With so little to
lose, Diffie left Oklahoma for Nashville, where he eventually
became the Country Music Association's male vocalist of the year.
"If the foundry hadn't been shut down," Diffie later admitted,
"I'd probably still be there today."
As Diffie discovered, failures sometimes pave the way for
successes and vice versa. We do everything we can to court
triumph and hold adversity at bay, then find that unavoidable
setbacks blaze the trail for our significant successes.
Misfortune forces us to discover new paths to achievement, which,
in turn, produce more setbacks and subsequent achievements in an
endless cycle.
This is true in the lives of people and businesses alike. In the
1950s, it was thought that the success of television would lead
to radio's demise. Instead, radio reinvented itself as a
talk-show drive-time medium and roared back stronger than ever.
Far from wiping out the market for fresh produce, as was feared,
frozen vegetables whetted our appetite for fresh ones in
countless new varieties. Convenience foods fueled a renaissance
in gourmet cooking. Fast food inspired a passion for leisurely
dining. The impersonality of web commerce will almost surely
spark a renaissance of person-to-person selling at
brick-and-mortar stores.
Why Success Resembles Failure, and Vice Versa
Winning and losing, victory and defeat, success and failure --
all these concepts are far less clear than we usually imagine.
Just when we think we know their meaning, it slips through our
fingers. The harder we look at them, the fuzzier they become.
Under close scrutiny, failure and success are hard to
distinguish. One is the woof, the other the warp of a tightly
woven fabric. Trying to tell them apart is like trying to
identify the individual strands of an expensive rug.
What we usually regard as success and failure can be so similar
that they defy distinction. Sometimes the two even resemble each
other. They are like fraternal, if not identical, twins. That's
not how they're usually perceived, of course. Success and failure
have traditionally been treated as members of different tribes.
One's a Viking, the other a Pygmy. They're sites, like day
and night, wet and dry, short and tall. Or so we like to think.
Westerners tend to think in absolutes. If it's hard, it can't be
soft. If it's cold, it can't be hot. You're a winner or a loser.
To succeed, you mustn't fail. sites, in other words, can't
coexist. Eastern thought is more relaxed on this point. It
embraces paradox: yin-yang, sweet and sour, the symbol of crisis
embracing rtunity. Such concepts accept seeming
contradictions as normal. In an increasingly complex world, we
might be wise to follow the Eastern example.
There are compelling reasons to avoid making facile distinctions
between success and failure. Assuming that they're sites and,
therefore, unrelated, is a fallacy. Nothing is so similar as
sites: love and hate, fear and longing, dread and desire.
Laughing segues easily into crying. Scalding and freezing water
sting in much the same way. Scratching an itch is not pain
followed by pleasure, but both at once. Success and failure, too,
have much in common. They don't necessarily duel to death.
Sometimes, these two dance. One leads, the other follows,
although it's not always apparent which is which, and who's doing
what. Rather than coming from different tribes, success and
failure are kin. Each contains genes of the other. The of
failure fertilizes the stamen of success. Together they produce
hybrid vigor.
In simpler times, distinctions were easier to make. Gender roles
were clear: Men held jobs, women kept house. Businesses with
strong bottom lines were successful. Those that lost money were
failures. Today, however, companies are judged as much on future
prospects as they are on current performance. Profitability isn't
always equated with success. Even stable corporations with solid
profit-and-loss statements may be seen by investors as failures
in the making. Today's hot company is tomorrow's iceberg.
Overnight, fickle consumers turn their backs on products they had
made into big hits. Word processing programs that were state of
the art just a few years ago -- XyWrite, WordStar, DisplayWrite
-- are museum pieces today. Hayes Modems set an industry standard
(Hayes Compatible), then disappeared. After defining a fashion
genre, Starter jackets went bankrupt. Success is a moving target,
as are its symbols. What stood for success yesterday may
represent failure today, and vice versa.
Can you imagine Steve Jobs and Stephen Wozniak taking a break to
read Dress for Success while wiring the first Apple computer? Try
to picture Bill Gates consulting the book Success! when launching
Microsoft. Michael Korda's 1977 book featured drawings that
illustrated do's and don'ts for conveying the image of a winner.
One pictured The Loser's Jacket Pocket. This pocket held three
pens and a glasses case. The nerd look, in other words. At the
very time that his readers were studying how to avoid looking
like a loser, Korda's loser look was common among those who
eventually enjoyed the most success of all -- on the author's own
terms. A company like Microsoft was chockablock with employees
who, to all appearances, were hopeless losers. A 1978 picture of
Microsoft's eleven scruffy founders that's posted on the Internet
is labeled, "Would you have invested?"
In a rapidly changing business environment, it's futile to try to
stay a of symbols of success: the suits, ties, shoes,
watch, pen, desk, and corner office that make one appear
successful. Some of our most dynamic companies and those who work
there shun those symbols. Yesterday's notions of success and
failure have gone the way of gray flannel suits. In today's
business climate, the concept of success has become vague,
complicated, even contradictory. Measures of success and failure
are more ambiguous than ever, part of the broader complexity of a
global, digital, online economy.
To cope with this economy don't flee from its complexity; embrace
it. In the world to come, we will repeatedly face fluid,
ambiguous, even paradoxical, situations. Wisdom consists of
realizing that every seeming paradox, all apparent
contradictions, can't be resolved. Some even contain of
necessary change.
Many paradoxical notions are already floating about today's
business world: Grow your business by destroying your business;
to get big, think small; increase your share of markets by
ignoring the concept of market share. We would add: Manage
success and failure by not making clear distinctions between the
two. How? Rather than trying to hang a label on every act -- one
reading SUCCESS or FAILURE -- recognize that most situations
contain elements of each. It's not success or failure but success
and failure. When it comes to this issue, both/and is a far more
useful concept than either/or. We can't cleave these two so
cleanly, and shouldn't try. Using success and failure as a
yardstick limits our ability to create, innovate, and take risks,
which is the only way to stay afloat in the emerging economy.
Failure Pride
At the cutting edge of today's economy, creative minds have
already embraced the symbiotic nature of success and failure. A
more relaxed attitude toward both is routine among innovators
throughout the country. Failure, they say, is "a step on the road
to success." Some consider setbacks a badge of honor,
unmistakable proof that they're bold risk takers. Far from hiding
their blunders, they brag about them.
Attitudes toward success and failure are a fault line dividing
generations. For any number of reasons, younger cohorts find the
prospect of going belly up less daunting than their predecessors
did. Partly, it's simply that they have less to lose by taking
chances. Partly it's because they've known only affluence (the
Depression to them is the subject of black-and-white
documentaries on public television). It's also due to an attitude
shift, however. These new workers realize -- as a few thoughtful
people always have -- that pursuing success is like chasing the
horizon, and that failure is an integral part of an interesting
life.
Organizations that don't accommodate this shift in attitude risk
losing some of their best, most innovative employees. Trying to
retain them with the usual lures of salary, benefits, and perks
won't work. Tweaking compensation packages accomplishes little
when it comes to attracting and retaining innovators. This hardly
means they don't care about money. Symbolically, it's terribly
important as a way of keeping score. Money keeps you in the game,
but it's the game that matters, not income as such. They would
rather be given challenging assignments than get paid a premium
to do routine tasks well.
Consider what so many younger employees do for relaxation: climb
rocks, raft rivers, bike ains, surf waves, trek in distant
locales. In such activities, the risk of wiping out is a large
part of the appeal. At work, they disdain "success" for the same
reason that they go bungee jumping: as a flight away from
security and toward adventure. So many come from sheltered
backgrounds that the prospect of excitement entices them more
than the security of a good salary. Stock options get their
attention better than pension plans do. You might say they're
starved for daring, suffering from risk hunger. It's no
coincidence that their leisure activities stress challenge and
sneer at luxury.
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Winning and losing isn't what they're all about; intensity is.
Activities such as hang gliding and snowboarding don't have
"winners" or "losers." All are completely captivating. If the
game isn't 100 percent engaging, their devotees want to know, why
play at all? Did I succeed while playing? Did I fail? Who cares?
What's your point?
History's real elite has always considered the distinction
between winning and losing essentially beside the point. When
confronting triumph or disaster, said Rudyard Kipling, they
"treat these two impostors just the same." During discussions
with CEOs of thriving companies, the terms success and failure
rarely come up. Those who are fully engaged in life and consumed
by what they're doing seldom stop to consider whether they're
headed toward a win or a loss. Pursuing victory and avoiding
defeat is not what the highest achievers are about. They're
hunting for far bigger game.
Copyright © 2002 by Richard Farson and Ralph Keyes
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